The Reason for which he forbade obeying women

Chapter 288 – The reason due to which it is forbidden to obey women.

Ali Bin Ahmad Bin Abdullah Bin Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah Al narrated to us, from his father, from his grandfather Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah, from his father, from Muhammad Bin Abu Umeyr, from someone else (It has been narrated) from Al-Sadiq Ja’far Bin Muhammad (a.s), from his father (a.s.), from his forefathers (a.s.) having said: ‘A man from the companions of Amir Al-Momineen (a.s.) complained about his womenfolk, so Ali (a.s.) stood up to address. So he said: ‘Group of the people! Do not obey the women upon (any) situation, and do not make them trustees upon wealth, and do not make them as viziers for the management of the dependants, for if they are left upon that they would revolve the affairs to the destruction, and disobey the orders of the Master, for we have found them that there is no piety for them during their needs, nor any patience for them during their desires.

Luxury is a necessity for them even if they are old, and the self-conceitedness is a certainty for them even if they are frustrated. Their pleasure lies in their private parts. They are not grateful for the abundance. Whenever they are prevented from the little, they would forget the goodness and remember the evil, they snap with the slanders and are deliberately tyrannous, and are haunted by the Satan. Therefore, dwell upon every situation, and talk good with them, perhaps their deeds would be good. [Ilal al-Shara'i, Page 512-513]

(باب 288 - العلة التي من أجلها نهى عن طاعة النساء) 1 - حدثنا علي بن أحمد بن عبد الله بن أحمد بن أبي عبد الله البرقي رحمه الله
قال: حدثني أبي عن جده أحمد بن أبي عبد الله عن أبيه عن محمد بن أبي عمير عن غير واحد عن الصادق جعفر بن محمد عن أبيه عن آبائه عليهم السلام قال: شكى رجل من أصحاب أمير المؤمنين عليه السلام نساءه، فقام علي (ع) خطيبا، فقال: معاشر الناس لا تطيعوا النساء على حال، ولا تأمنوهن على مال، ولا تذروهن يدبرن أمر العيال فإنهن أن تركن وما أردن أوردنا المهالك، وعصين أمر المالك فانا وجدناهن لا ورع لهن عند حاجتهن ولا صبر لهن عند شهوتهن البذخ لهن لازم وان كبرن والعجب لهن لاحق وان عجزن يكون رضاهن في فروجهن لا يشكرن الكثير، إذا منعن القليل ينسين الخير ويذكرن الشر يتهافتن بالبهتان ويتمادين في الطغيان ويتصدين للشيطان فداروهن على كل حال وأحسنوا لهن المقال لعلهن يحسن الفعال.